So it’s a week after my first blog and setting the intention to stop complaining and I did not think I’d come to such a massive realisation. Or realisations even!
This year for me has been all about setting intentions and trying to be a better version of myself. The major wins have been in seeing just how powerful setting intentions are.
What I first noticed after setting the intention to stop complaining, as I wrote about in Part 1, was that I complained way more than I thought I did. Of course I thought I didn’t complain at all. Mr. Perfect rides again!
For a moment I was annoyed with myself like I had let myself or my idea of my new self down and then I got on with the process.
So rather than starting to complain to anyone and much more importantly before I would start complaining within my internal dialogue I would catch myself starting and stop right there. So the greatest power of setting the intention is that I would be aware of that version of myself and catch myself as it arises and let it go.
The real epiphany came for me just yesterday though. It was while I was travelling in the back of a car and looking out at the passing streets. It suddenly dawned on me that complaining yes and not just complaining but any self talk related to worry, negativity or anything like that steals the joy of this very moment. Whether it’s self talk or talking this out to anyone else.
Right after this thought flashed through my mind I noticed something change and then I felt much more present. I saw the trees at the side of the road rather than focusing on some nonsense internal dialogue. I made the choice to just let it go. And if I noticed anything coming back. I just let it go again. If this idea sounds completely alien to you I can assure you not long ago it would have sounded alien to me too. I cannot suggest strongly enough starting a regular meditation practice. And it has never been easier with tools like Calm.
All we have is this very moment. It is real. It is tangible. I am here right now and so are you. There is a great sense of gratitude that comes from accepting the here and now exactly as it is. The more I am present, the more I am here the less focus there is on past and future neither of which are real right now.
So how ‘Here’ are you right now?? And what do you carry around in your internal dialogues that aren’t helping you? Well maybe ‘Right now’ is a good time to set an intention?
Thank you so much for reading and I really hope it helps. Let me know if you have any questions or comments underneath.
Until next time x